Women - Forgotten Godliness

Recently came across many quotes, wordings, tweets, FB status, films, songs Etc etc on Abusing Women (Girls & Wife Especially) I don’t know y?????

Always stating girls as Annoying machines, love failure machines, torture thunders Etc Etc.. This is really atrocious -blaming whole gender for the mistakes done here and there by few among that gender.

But without female nothing is complete and everything is incomplete..  Just imagine a world without Women i.e first start with mother. No festival or event in your home is fulfilled without mother. For example on Diwali Your mother preparing dishes (Palagarams) with water shedding wet looking hair and roaming here and there in home and doing works and keeps on asking us to sit quite instead of disturbing her in the name of helping her. I bet it would have happen in ur life too. She is the first lady who cares for u. U may have all the properties and full of wealth but u can’t fulfill a festival without a mother. It seems ur enjoying the festival but really it won’t get fulfilled without a mother.

Why am speaking about mother?? Everyone says my mother is good she is GEM and divine. Other than mother all other girls are dumb and craps. How come this statement becomes true??? Today she may be your Mother. But Yesterdays she was a daughter to her parents, Girl friend to one fellow, and she might have married same fellow or another fellow due to situation demand, or else married same fellow. Don’t think bad that I am speaking ILL about mothers, am speaking fact. The whom ur calling so as cheat (Girls) now a days are tom’s mother.

Boys we should be careful while choosing a correct person instead of blaming the one which is a bad choice(Girl friend who left you) of yours. Blaming in anger is quit common but we are not stopping at that point naming her as bitch, etc etc and damaging her name as possible as u can. So cheating is everywhere… how many boys love sincerely??? Of course many.. But in same proportion only for sex purpose many are using the name love. Tell me its happening or not???  How many girls have committed suicide for being pregnant before marriage?? Personally I have seen 1 in my class. So boys are also cheats.. Instead of blaming each other Gender try to share and love each other.

So making girls to love u and staying with u is very tough. Only daring fellows commit to love and be ready to face love failure and others stay away. For example let us take VTV film. First half full of Kart hick’s love (Very true, Sincere, Dedicated &well committed) but am asking to the guys who are telling world would have been so good without our Girls. Without a Jessy in VTV how come karthick’s Character might have shined and swelled in hearts?????  After jessy stopped her marriage in interval block and explained her love to karthick in kerala make the movie so wonder. Without that scene, that movie is a just film tape. She had left Karthick which he had been informed by her from very beginning. So nee ennna verati verati love panna karthick???? Nan paatu yarayachu kalyanam panitu poi erupen…! What she told was really true.. This karthick chased her to love which she way denying him from beginning tough she like him. But karthick never listened her words atlast Bad name to Jessy as she left a Gem of person karthick… just go deep and think.. Jessy mela tappu ela…! Hope u all guys understand what I am trying to say..

Respect women as ur Mother, Sister, Aunt, Friend, spouse EtcC etc.. avanga ela na namma ela da..! Vallu leka potey manam ledu..! If your going to use words on women then keep in mind  your mother and sister who also deserves your abusing words. 

Awesome note on friendship which i try to follow...

Thirukural on friendship

I have to thank MR. M.S Vincent for providing such an explanation....

 Thirukkural on FRIENDSHIP

What is ' friendship ' ?

Is it only helping each other during crisis ?

Most of us think that helping each other in crisis is 

the true  friendship.

No, ' helping '  is one of the aspects of  friendship. 

There are many other dimensions for friendship.

" For helping each other during crisis ", Thiruvalluvar 

gives an excellent example.

"If the garment( of the hip ) slips, the hand goes 

in reflex action to hold it.

Like this a true friend will step in 

spontaneously to help during crisis."

உடுக்கை இழந்தவன் கைபோல் ஆங்கே 

இடுக்கண் களைவதாம் நட்பு

உடுக்கை = garment or dress ,  இடுக்கண் = crisis

There were two childhood friends, 

after PUC they wanted to join military.

Together they went for a selection, 

one was selected and  approval was pending

for want of police report. One day ,

While the selected boy was riding a motorbike,

the other  was sitting at back. Near a police station, 

he dashed against a cyclist injuring him seriously . 

Immediately the non selected boy  volunteered to the 

police  and  informed that he only committed the accident.

He told  later to his friend, 

" now, there should not be any police case on you . "

In another kural Thiruvalluvar says, 

" The smile that dwells in the face is 

not the true friendship

but  the smile that emerges in the heart is 

the true friendship." (786)

முகம்நக நட்பது நட்பு அன்று நெஞ்சத்து 

அகநக நட்பது நட்பு (786)

There lived a king and a poet in Tamilnadu who had 

never met each other but united in hearts and nurtured 

the divinely friendship. The poet had great respect for 

king's exemplary rule and King had the great admiration

for the excellent literary work of the poet. 

They were unseen but not unknown.

Due to the disputes of the sons on capturing the power , 

king decided to  end his life 

through a long spiritual fasting ( வடக்கிருந்து உயிர் விடல் )

Before his death, he ordered to construct a tomb next to 

his  for the poet. He had the unshakable faith that his 

beloved friend would come and die with him. 

It happened.  On hearing that king was on final fast, 

poet rushed and joined with him.

( king : Kopperum cholan கோப்பெருஞ்சோழன் ,

poet: Pisiranthiyar பிசிராந்தையார் )

This is divine friendship is gloriously spoken in  Tamil literatures.

Thiruvalluvar advises  to avoid friendship with 

certain  people.

"  Even in the dream there should not be 

friendship with those 

whose words and action are different." ( 819 )

" In the war field, untrained horse will throw 

the warrior and run away,

there are people who will  run away 

during crisis without rescuing,

it is desired to be without friends in life than 

to join with such people. "( 814 )

" The benefits from real enemies are ten crore 

time better when compared with the friendship of 

those who always cut jokes and make others joyful

but never be useful at any time."( 817 )

In the Kural 795 Thiruvalluvar insists,

" Make friendship with those who would not  hesitate 

even to make you weep by  their strong advises, 

when you are  involved in wrong doings ." (795)

True friends will not over look the wrong deeds of each other.

அழச் சொல்லி அல்லது இடித்து வழக்கு அறிய 

வல்லார் நட்பு அயந்து கொளல் (795)

A  Cholan king  decided to declare war against his  

two sons revolting for power.  

When it came to the notice of king's friend and poet, 

he immediately rushed to the king and advised him with 

ethical words not to involve in this foolish act. 

He made the king to realise that if the king wins 

by killing both of his sons, there would be no one to 

rule the country. The country would  go without heirs.

More over it would bring discredit and disgrace to the fame 

of the king in the history.

King realised and changed his decision. 

Frustrated by the thirst of power by the sons, 

the king decided to go for spiritual fasting till death 

as it was a customary in those days.

This king is the same  Kopperum cholan கோப்பெருஞ்சோழன்  

previously mentioned,

but poet is another friend of the king by name Pullatrur Eyitranar .

This is the basic responsibility of a true friend, 

friendship is not only  for laughters, 

get- togethers , joyful rides, potluck dinners ,  etc.  

There should be an inner urge to set right 

each others faults.

If it is not found, it is a fake friendship.

On the day of Ides of March ( 15th March ) Julius Caesar 

was stabbed by his  associates. Helpless Caesar looked for 

the  help of his close friend Brutus ,

bleeding Caesar went near  Brutus with a great hope that 

he would  save him. 

But Brutus himself gave " the most unkindest cut of all".

Shocked Caesar uttered , 

" Et tu Brute ( you too Brutus  )  then Caesar fall ".

Is Brutus a villain ? no , he is not.  

Then,  why he killed his best friend Caesar ?

Brutus was a great patriot of his country Rome, 

he was brain washed by real villians like Cassius by saying  

that Caesar would become a dictator.

For Brutus, his country was greater than anything else. 

In his own words

"Not that I loved Caesar less but loved Rome more" 

Later , when Brutus was killed in the war field, 

Mark Antony pays the greatest tribute to him.

" this was the noblest Roman of them all."

"Nature might stand up and say to all the world, 

this was a man".

Shakespeare had never given this kind of highest tribute 

to any one.

Such a great noble soul  was Brutus, unfortunately

without knowing the conspiracy,  he joined with the culprits.

Now let us imagine the feeling of dying Caesar 

on seeing his trustworthy friend Brutus also betrayed  him. 

Thiruvalluvar  gives the fitting answer,

"During disaster, if so called friend lets one down,  

even at the moment of death, 

the very thought of it will burn one's heart .

( Kural 799 )

Yes, Caesar's heart, unable to withstand the agony of treachery

of Brutus, simply burnt to ashes. 

According to Shakespeare the mighty heart of Caesar was burst.  

Mark Antony's speech:

For when the noble Caesar saw him stab,

Ingratitude, more strong than traitors' arms,

Quite vanquish'd him: then burst his mighty heart. . . 

                                         Julius Caesar Act 3, scene 2, 184–186

Please read the lines , NOBLE CAESAR SAW HIM STAB....... 

                                THEN BURST HIS MIGHTY HEART.

Shakespeare says the mighty  heart of Caesar was burst .

Thiruvalluvar says " heart would burn " 

"Burn  of heart " or  "Burst of heart "  gives the same sense.

கெடும் காலைக் கைவிடுவார் கேண்மை அடுங்காலை

உள்ளினும் உள்ளம் சுடும் ( 799 ) 

( துன்பத்தில் கைவிட்டாரை சாகும்போது நினைத்தாலும்

உள்ளம் சுட்டுப் பொசுங்கி போகும் )

 Even at the  time of death , if one thinks  of those deserted during crisis, 

the heart will burn to ashes. ( kural 799 ) ====================================================== 

Let us remember in simple words, the essence of some of 

the Thirukkurals on friendship.

1)  A good friendship will be like  waxing (growing) moon.

     Bad friendship will be like  waning (decreasing ) moon.

2)  Mutual help is only one of the aspects of Friendship,

     It itself is not a true friendship.

  

3)  A good friend should set right the wrongs of

     the other by giving strong ethical advises.

4)  Friendship should emerge from heart 

     not from  the smiles of face.

5)  A friend should rush to help during the crisis

     like the hand that goes to hold the slipping garment.

6)  Friendship of those who always create unnecessary problems

     even in simple matters, should be avoided .

7)  Friendship with people whose words and actions are different , 

     should be avoided.

8)  Friendship of those who run away at the time of disaster,

     should be avoided.

9)  Friendship of those who laugh and make merry but 

    remain useless during crisis,  should be avoided.

10  Friendship of fools and idiots should be avoided.