Thursday, February 16, 2012

Women - Forgotten Godliness


Recently came across many quotes, wordings, tweets, FB status, films, songs Etc etc on Abusing Women (Girls & Wife Especially) I don’t know y?????

Always stating girls as Annoying machines, love failure machines, torture thunders Etc Etc.. This is really atrocious -blaming whole gender for the mistakes done here and there by few among that gender.

But without female nothing is complete and everything is incomplete..  Just imagine a world without Women i.e first start with mother. No festival or event in your home is fulfilled without mother. For example on Diwali Your mother preparing dishes (Palagarams) with water shedding wet looking hair and roaming here and there in home and doing works and keeps on asking us to sit quite instead of disturbing her in the name of helping her. I bet it would have happen in ur life too. She is the first lady who cares for u. U may have all the properties and full of wealth but u can’t fulfill a festival without a mother. It seems ur enjoying the festival but really it won’t get fulfilled without a mother.

Why am speaking about mother?? Everyone says my mother is good she is GEM and divine. Other than mother all other girls are dumb and craps. How come this statement becomes true??? Today she may be your Mother. But Yesterdays she was a daughter to her parents, Girl friend to one fellow, and she might have married same fellow or another fellow due to situation demand, or else married same fellow. Don’t think bad that I am speaking ILL about mothers, am speaking fact. The whom ur calling so as cheat (Girls) now a days are tom’s mother.

Boys we should be careful while choosing a correct person instead of blaming the one which is a bad choice(Girl friend who left you) of yours. Blaming in anger is quit common but we are not stopping at that point naming her as bitch, etc etc and damaging her name as possible as u can. So cheating is everywhere… how many boys love sincerely??? Of course many.. But in same proportion only for sex purpose many are using the name love. Tell me its happening or not???  How many girls have committed suicide for being pregnant before marriage?? Personally I have seen 1 in my class. So boys are also cheats.. Instead of blaming each other Gender try to share and love each other.

So making girls to love u and staying with u is very tough. Only daring fellows commit to love and be ready to face love failure and others stay away. For example let us take VTV film. First half full of Kart hick’s love (Very true, Sincere, Dedicated &well committed) but am asking to the guys who are telling world would have been so good without our Girls. Without a Jessy in VTV how come karthick’s Character might have shined and swelled in hearts?????  After jessy stopped her marriage in interval block and explained her love to karthick in kerala make the movie so wonder. Without that scene, that movie is a just film tape. She had left Karthick which he had been informed by her from very beginning. So nee ennna verati verati love panna karthick???? Nan paatu yarayachu kalyanam panitu poi erupen…! What she told was really true.. This karthick chased her to love which she way denying him from beginning tough she like him. But karthick never listened her words atlast Bad name to Jessy as she left a Gem of person karthick… just go deep and think.. Jessy mela tappu ela…! Hope u all guys understand what I am trying to say..

Respect women as ur Mother, Sister, Aunt, Friend, spouse EtcC etc.. avanga ela na namma ela da..! Vallu leka potey manam ledu..! If your going to use words on women then keep in mind  your mother and sister who also deserves your abusing words. 

Friday, January 13, 2012

Awesome note on friendship which i try to follow...


Thirukural on friendship

I have to thank MR. M.S Vincent for providing such an explanation....



 Thirukkural on FRIENDSHIP




What is ' friendship ' ?
Is it only helping each other during crisis ?
Most of us think that helping each other in crisis is 
the true  friendship.
No, ' helping '  is one of the aspects of  friendship. 
There are many other dimensions for friendship.

" For helping each other during crisis ", Thiruvalluvar 
gives an excellent example.
"If the garment( of the hip ) slips, the hand goes 
in reflex action to hold it.
Like this a true friend will step in 
spontaneously to help during crisis."

உடுக்கை இழந்தவன் கைபோல் ஆங்கே 
இடுக்கண் களைவதாம் நட்பு

உடுக்கை = garment or dress ,  இடுக்கண் = crisis


There were two childhood friends, 
after PUC they wanted to join military.
Together they went for a selection, 
one was selected and  approval was pending
for want of police report. One day ,
While the selected boy was riding a motorbike,
the other  was sitting at back. Near a police station, 
he dashed against a cyclist injuring him seriously . 
Immediately the non selected boy  volunteered to the 
police  and  informed that he only committed the accident.
He told  later to his friend, 
" now, there should not be any police case on you . "


In another kural Thiruvalluvar says, 
" The smile that dwells in the face is 
not the true friendship
but  the smile that emerges in the heart is 
the true friendship." (786)
முகம்நக நட்பது நட்பு அன்று நெஞ்சத்து 
அகநக நட்பது நட்பு (786)

There lived a king and a poet in Tamilnadu who had 
never met each other but united in hearts and nurtured 
the divinely friendship. The poet had great respect for 
king's exemplary rule and King had the great admiration
for the excellent literary work of the poet. 
They were unseen but not unknown.
Due to the disputes of the sons on capturing the power , 
king decided to  end his life 
through a long spiritual fasting ( வடக்கிருந்து உயிர் விடல் )
Before his death, he ordered to construct a tomb next to 
his  for the poet. He had the unshakable faith that his 
beloved friend would come and die with him. 
It happened.  On hearing that king was on final fast, 
poet rushed and joined with him.
( king : Kopperum cholan கோப்பெருஞ்சோழன் ,
poet: Pisiranthiyar பிசிராந்தையார் )
This is divine friendship is gloriously spoken in  Tamil literatures.

Thiruvalluvar advises  to avoid friendship with 
certain  people.

"  Even in the dream there should not be 
friendship with those 
whose words and action are different." ( 819 )


" In the war field, untrained horse will throw 
the warrior and run away,
there are people who will  run away 
during crisis without rescuing,
it is desired to be without friends in life than 
to join with such people. "( 814 )

" The benefits from real enemies are ten crore 
time better when compared with the friendship of 
those who always cut jokes and make others joyful
but never be useful at any time."( 817 )

In the Kural 795 Thiruvalluvar insists,
" Make friendship with those who would not  hesitate 
even to make you weep by  their strong advises, 
when you are  involved in wrong doings ." (795)
True friends will not over look the wrong deeds of each other.

அழச் சொல்லி அல்லது இடித்து வழக்கு அறிய 
வல்லார் நட்பு அயந்து கொளல் (795)

A  Cholan king  decided to declare war against his  
two sons revolting for power.  
When it came to the notice of king's friend and poet, 
he immediately rushed to the king and advised him with 
ethical words not to involve in this foolish act. 
He made the king to realise that if the king wins 
by killing both of his sons, there would be no one to 
rule the country. The country would  go without heirs.
More over it would bring discredit and disgrace to the fame 
of the king in the history.
King realised and changed his decision. 
Frustrated by the thirst of power by the sons, 
the king decided to go for spiritual fasting till death 
as it was a customary in those days.
This king is the same  Kopperum cholan கோப்பெருஞ்சோழன்  
previously mentioned,
but poet is another friend of the king by name Pullatrur Eyitranar .
This is the basic responsibility of a true friend, 
friendship is not only  for laughters, 
get- togethers , joyful rides, potluck dinners ,  etc.  
There should be an inner urge to set right 
each others faults.
If it is not found, it is a fake friendship.

On the day of Ides of March ( 15th March ) Julius Caesar 
was stabbed by his  associates. Helpless Caesar looked for 
the  help of his close friend Brutus ,
bleeding Caesar went near  Brutus with a great hope that 
he would  save him. 
But Brutus himself gave " the most unkindest cut of all".
Shocked Caesar uttered , 
" Et tu Brute ( you too Brutus  )  then Caesar fall ".

Is Brutus a villain ? no , he is not.  
Then,  why he killed his best friend Caesar ?
Brutus was a great patriot of his country Rome, 
he was brain washed by real villians like Cassius by saying  
that Caesar would become a dictator.
For Brutus, his country was greater than anything else. 
In his own words
"Not that I loved Caesar less but loved Rome more" 

Later , when Brutus was killed in the war field, 
Mark Antony pays the greatest tribute to him.

" this was the noblest Roman of them all."
"Nature might stand up and say to all the world, 
this was a man".

Shakespeare had never given this kind of highest tribute 
to any one.
Such a great noble soul  was Brutus, unfortunately
without knowing the conspiracy,  he joined with the culprits.
Now let us imagine the feeling of dying Caesar 
on seeing his trustworthy friend Brutus also betrayed  him. 
Thiruvalluvar  gives the fitting answer,

"During disaster, if so called friend lets one down,  
even at the moment of death, 
the very thought of it will burn one's heart .
( Kural 799 )

Yes, Caesar's heart, unable to withstand the agony of treachery
of Brutus, simply burnt to ashes. 
According to Shakespeare the mighty heart of Caesar was burst.  

Mark Antony's speech:
For when the noble Caesar saw him stab,
Ingratitude, more strong than traitors' arms,
Quite vanquish'd him: then burst his mighty heart. . . 

                                         Julius Caesar Act 3, scene 2, 184–186
Please read the lines , NOBLE CAESAR SAW HIM STAB....... 
                                THEN BURST HIS MIGHTY HEART.

Shakespeare says the mighty  heart of Caesar was burst .
Thiruvalluvar says " heart would burn " 
"Burn  of heart " or  "Burst of heart "  gives the same sense.

கெடும் காலைக் கைவிடுவார் கேண்மை அடுங்காலை
உள்ளினும் உள்ளம் சுடும் ( 799 ) 

( துன்பத்தில் கைவிட்டாரை சாகும்போது நினைத்தாலும்
உள்ளம் சுட்டுப் பொசுங்கி போகும் )
 Even at the  time of death , if one thinks  of those deserted during crisis, 
the heart will burn to ashes. ( kural 799 ) ====================================================== 
Let us remember in simple words, the essence of some of 
the Thirukkurals on friendship.

1)  A good friendship will be like  waxing (growing) moon.
     Bad friendship will be like  waning (decreasing ) moon.

2)  Mutual help is only one of the aspects of Friendship,
     It itself is not a true friendship.
  
3)  A good friend should set right the wrongs of
     the other by giving strong ethical advises.

4)  Friendship should emerge from heart 
     not from  the smiles of face.

5)  A friend should rush to help during the crisis
     like the hand that goes to hold the slipping garment.

6)  Friendship of those who always create unnecessary problems
     even in simple matters, should be avoided .

7)  Friendship with people whose words and actions are different , 
     should be avoided.

8)  Friendship of those who run away at the time of disaster,
     should be avoided.

9)  Friendship of those who laugh and make merry but 
    remain useless during crisis,  should be avoided.

10  Friendship of fools and idiots should be avoided.

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Send off 2011


Yes!! This year is getting geared up for send off…! 2011…

This year meant a lot for me..! Not just a usual statement. I swear.
Of course I had many ups n downs it was awesome. !  2011.
Of course I lost many things.. But I wish I should keep hold of what I got this year.

            This year (i.e) 2011 started with lots of pain that i was transferred to Nellore from Chennai.  I am not bringing down the name of this city. Just imagine i was in Chennai which is a metro. What 1 mean as Chennai is all about ma family, ma friends, Tamil language, Chennai food, Chennai buses, Chennai infrastructures, temples, prasadams (oops mouth watering) Tamil movies, Tamil TV channels, and TN politics.  specially Y.Karthick( person with awesome speech... i go on enjoy his speech. Tamil expert)

            Though I visit Chennai on every weekend I miss it badly..! I would like to toss some lyrics from ilayaraja song “sorgamey endralum adu namoora pola varuma??? Definitely not…!

            I know my parents are unhappy with my visit because they are more worried about my departure on the same day..! Missing Chennai is one part and being alone in Nellore is another tragedy. Wof I was going mad, wild at times.

            Last pongal was well. But republic day was filled up with sorrow. Yes my grandma (amamma) expired.  She is the one, who thought me how to play Playing cards, such a diff paati I had..! So pity I am missing her…!

           
This year have taught lots of things and gifted me many things… let me list those things

    Sudeer Kumar
  • This year added +1 year to my resume in the experience column.
  • This year gifted me a friend Sudeer  . He has been a lot for me in this short span from jun 2011. Ma god such a person … in my brahmin slang ‘chamathu ambi’… I can thank this year 2011 again n again for bring him in my life. My one and only friend in Telugu (i.e) my mother tongue.  



  • This year made me to use twitter frequently though I have few followers and I had twitter account from 2 years, this year was more special.  My tweets replicate me.  My fav celebs in twitter are @chinmayi , @madhankarkey  @genelia  @selvaraghavan .
  • Stepping into blogging also happened in 2011. Actual purpose for stepping was to write a blog on my friend Sudheer ajithsimren.blogspot.com I am novice to blogging. Just started another blog (that is what ur looking now)  for sharing my journey. Actually blogging is healthier than other social networking sites may be in my view.
  • I can’t say no to my one n only well wisher. He got job in Nagapattnam.  Actually my plan was to work in the same company where he is working now.  But now the situation is very bad to enter in that company.  He is the only one who always makes time for me.when i call him he say' solra praveenu....' chance a ela po. (Arumugam).
  • Facebook helped me in a friend way, to converse with the dearest while in quarrel in the entity of status update. It was such a wonderful experience. moreover FB page i <3 Chennai made myself informed what's happening in Chennai with relevant photographs. I Cant forget fishville game which stole my max time .  . Then machi Rajesh, Sameera and Prasanna i have been in touch with u in FB for a long time-ungala paathu roamba naalachu. Prashanth anna, adi anna & suresh anna stayed through FB through out the year. -   http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001338475867 
  • I can say who stayed with me in phone its R.Praveen, Maan karatey manoj & Chela pandi.. i used to chat hours n hours but paathu roamba naal aachu. recently i have seen R.Praveen during my birthday. So sad R.Praveen lost his Laptop and mobile early morning in his room. Actually he loves his mobile very much. :( 
  • I am staying in a village there is no source for food at night times. So I decided to cook. Yes I am very much habituated to cooking. This time I was quite experimenting new recipes(chettinad varutha kozhi, kaaraikudi kathirikai and gobi curry) with my roommates, so happy  it came well and my akka adopted some of  my recipes and got honored from her spouse.  One Sunday I prepared naatukodi pulusu and naatu koodi fry for my office members. I got tremendous response out of that our doctor joined his two hands and thanked me with such an satisfaction. That was the greatest compliment I have ever got for cooking. Accepting compliment wont gets completed without thanking my mom . she is the secret recipie of my cook.
  • Since i was staying my company guest house i was 24x7 exposed to internet. Which enhanced me to adopt reading habit . 'Ponniyin Selvan' was my first non technical and non academic book .  I have stated reading from april of 2011, still am reading it unable to complete.. not that it is too big am not reading it regularly but still staying in touch with "ponniyin selvan". Learnt lots off new Tamil words from that book. again thanks to 2011 for Ponniyin selvan...
                       To Download in Tamil - http://www.tamilcube.com/res/tamil_ebooks.html

                       Download links for English -

                       Part 1-  http://www.comsys.com.sg/pdf/Ponniyin_Selvan_E1.pdf
                       Part 2-  http://www.comsys.com.sg/pdf/Ponniyin_Selvan_E2.pdf
                       Part 3-  http://www.comsys.com.sg/pdf/Ponniyin_Selvan_E3.pdf
                       Part 4-  http://www.comsys.com.sg/pdf/Ponniyin_Selvan_E4.pdf

  • The only one good heart from my office is Mr.Purushotham.... such an good Human.. wow he is also a neighbour where i am staying. I am totally thankful to his full family. Evalo naalu avanga veetule saaptu erupen....! I have learnt what is socialism and how to be more cosmopolitan .He had helped me in my carrier growth. :)
  • My movie journey was filled with both Tamil and Telugu this year. only 2 Hindi movies. In my life i have never scene this much of Telugu movies started with Ala Modalaindi, Mr.Perfect & 100% Love for first 6 months. after intro of sudheer Money money, Gambler(mankatha in telugu) , BodyGuard, Sangarshana, nuvilla,dirty picture,Panjaa,Solo,journey... apart from him with my room mates Dhookudu, badrinath , Bezawada, Dada & Naana. o baboy enni telugu movie la??? na life lona??? ha ha ha strange..  Tamil movie (my fav) started with kaavalan( i loved it ), from that many movies punched my heart deivathirumagal(2 times ), Payanam, Mankatha, Engeyum Epodum (3times in tamil), Mayakam enna. other than this loved kanchana, Ko , 7 am arivu,Avan Ivan, 180..  bored  with engeyum kadhal. this year i missed ARR in tamil movies. hope he rocks in 2012.
  • This year i have visited Vijayawada once. It was a unexpected trip. Hardly i stayed 45mins in vijayawada.  i went to Chengalput for Patrick's aka's marriage i have seen Vignesh, G.Praveen, Ravi Shankaran, Pradeep dubey, Patrick, Maankaratey etc etc... That's it no more travels apart from Nellore to Chennai and back Chennai to Nellore,,,

This year have taught me lessons and i have missed some in my life

My Mom and Loshika(Danger PAPA)
1) Missed my parents and made me realize how tough to be a parent. awesome being a parent. miss u mummy daddy. Missed daddy's pocket money. Missed my cute loshika. Recently she has been named as danger papa..lol..

2) I have missed My E.BANU CHANDER .happy that he got job, but he went to Gujarat i don't know when i ill meet him again.  



3) I got recent honors from my friends 'i love u' -'sadist' -'u wont understand me' - 'i am even unfit to work with u' - 'i hate u' - 'ur dangerous' -  'ur broadminded' - 'i don't want to see u' - 'i miss u ' - ' sorry ra '  - ' thanks darling' - 'ur handsome' - ' jiddu moham'- 'happy i have seen u' -//-'pogadey pogadey' - 'andha vaanatha pola manam padacha manavaney'-  wondering how many roles and definitions.

4) Missed my touch in electrical Dept. have to prepare more.Becoming dumb in subject.